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A Visual Declaration of Love!


wedding wisdom guides for brides sand ceremony pictureThere is a very visual way to include something special into your marriage ceremony which I think is hard to beat as a way of showing that your life, following your wedding day, will be forever intertwined. It is called the 'sand ceremony'. Many couples I planned a wedding for included this into their ceremony. The colours of the sand was usually coordinated with flowers. It does not take very long but it always added an extra dimension.

You have three glass containers .One for the groom filled with sand, one for the bride filled with sand and an empty container. At an appropriate point in the ceremony the bride and groom at the same time pour their own sand into the empty container.The colours of the sand will be different and as it mixes together it forms a unique pattern which symbolizes the joining together of two people and two lives.

This is how the wording or approach would be if you decided you would like to include this into your marriage ceremony. Let us for argument sake call the bride Susan and the groom David.


You have just sealed your relationship by the exchanging of vows and the giving and receiving of rings. Today has been a pledge made by you two individual people to commit to a relationship.

Your individual lives are represented by these two containers of sand.

One container represents you Susan, all that you were, all that you are and all that you will be.

The other container represents you David, all that you were, all that you are and all that you will be. In joining your lives together your union makes you more than either could be alone.

Your union will be symbolized by the pouring of the containers of sand into the single vase. As Susan and David pour the sand into the third container the words continue...........

Let this union become strong enough, resilient enough and flexible enough to provide space to grow and change; roomy and secure enough to hold and shelter you for all the days of your life.

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so you will be in your marriage, two individuals but together in life.

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